Communication

It is important to have good communication within a marriage because it strengths the bond between the husband and wife when they can best understand one another. We all need to be more aware of the different ways that we all communicate, especially in marriage.  Communication occurs all the time. In class we discussed the types of communication we use; verbal communication, which is words and tone, and non-verbal communication, which is body language.

You would think that we would take the majority of what the person is trying to communicate to us by their words, but that is not always the case. The biggest message that we receive from people is from first by their body language (51% of the information that we gather), then tone of voice (35% of the information that we gather), and then by their words (14% of the information that we gather).

If we gather so much information from the body language of people and their tone of voice, why are so many people now using texting, or some sort of messaging use that does not involve those two key parts of communication? How many mixed messages do we receive from these kinds of communication?

I hope that in a marriage that those types of communication wouldn’t be the main way for the couple to communicate. It is important for the couple to make sure they are clear in what they say and also have clear rules. Meaning that they share their meanings of communication so they can better understand the messages they try to send to each other, both verbally and non-verbally.

A Crisis within a family can either tear them apart or bring them closer together. It all depends on how the family reacts to the situation; they can either push each other away or come closer and face the situation together. Why families often tend to push each other away when a crisis happens is because they are either scared to bring them into the situation or they fill they don’t need others help and this could potentially destroy the family. But when a family faces a crisis together and works through it as a team it could bring them together because they are all working together to make things work out for the best.

After Marriage there are many early marital adjustments that are made from small adjustments like sharing a bathroom to adjusting to caring for a child. There can be lots of stress added to a marriage when a child is brought in focuses begin to change. A child should not be a factor of destroying a marriage it should be one that strengthens the marriage helping the husband and wife to work together and learn together. I believe that when there is stress there is an opportunity to grow.

How is the fidelity of Marriage viewed in society? I think that many people view it as being unfaithful to your spouse by cheating on them or having a sexual relationship outside of the marriage. After discussing this topic in class this past week I believe that there are so many other ways that often over looked that someone could be unfaithful to their spouse. Things that are often over looked could be from not making your spouse a priority and putting other things first, spending more time with others and discussing with them problems you and your spouse may have, and there are many more. At the time they may not seem like a big deal but they can result in dishonesty and unfaithfulness. Married spouses need to be faithful to each other by being honest to each other, taking care of each other’s needs, and loving each other.